To help encourage an attitude of gratitude while I’m still finding my feet again I’ve decided to start a simple gratitude log. I’m starting off with just one thing a day, and have decided to keep it going throughout May. Here are the things that gave me feelings of gratitude and pleasure:
- Monday: The warmth of a hot water bottle.
- Tuesday: Seeing a beautifully vibrant pheasant in the garden.
- Wednesday: My cupboard is stocked up with soup again.
- Thursday: Mum found some chocolate Hobnonbs that are wheat free.
- Friday: My prayer cards arrived sooner than expected from America.
- Saturday: I had my biggest order yet on Etsy.
- Sunday: I read a poem in a post that was just what I needed to hear to help me while I’m trying to heal. It’s so close to home it may as well have been written for me: https://pagingmrszen.wordpress.com/2017/04/29/2504/
Sometimes the tiniest things can cause a shift in perspective. I started this blog because I wanted to heal, and hoped that in sharing it might prove of use to others. Last night I realised I’d been going about things on here the wrong way. This is about healing – something I’ve long had an interest in with a background in holistic therapies. In focusing on the dark, on my ‘problems’, I forgot that the objective is to aid healing.
A Goddess much beloved to me is Sigyn, the Norse Goddess of compassion, love and healing wounds. She is the one who inspires me on my healing journey. As such, so the blog becomes a better way to honour Her, I’m now going to shift the focus to the healing side of things, and the benefits of integrating, the positive lessons that can come from Shadow work, and the healing journey in general.
Sigyn isn’t one to shy away from the dark – her husband is Loki – but she approaches all with loving compassion. She is a Goddess for deep healing. So the dark will not be ignored here, but will be tempered with compassion.
Then it can – I hope – become worthy of She (Who) Holds The Bowl.
Sometimes we mine others too deeply, when what we really need to do is sit with our own thoughts and emotions and deal with them.
– Diary musing from 30th January 2017
Sometimes I feel we can rely on others too much to fill the gaps in between. We search for things in others and use them as a distraction from healing our own needs and wounds.
But what pressure might that end up placing on such a relationship, even if it’s a friendship? What happens if that person can no longer be that distraction? We have to remember these people have their own emotional needs and lives to live too.
It’s believed in many ancient traditions that if you know the name of something you have power over it. This can manifest as either being able to command it or to break its hold over you.
In Shadow work it is important to know exactly which emotion you’re dealing with. It’s also important not to allow your own or other peoples’ projections to ‘name’ something falsely.
Differences between emotions, and understanding them, can help pinpoint the real areas you need to heal and work with. If you can’t pinpoint the exact emotion, but can instead recognise one of its ‘cousins’, you can still make progress, but perhaps it will take longer to dig out the root cause.
Some of my future posts will be working out these differences, and others will concentrate on specific Shadows – some I am working to heal myself, and others I’ve ‘questioned’ to try to better understand someone else’s projections and Shadows.