To help encourage an attitude of gratitude while I’m still finding my feet again I’ve decided to start a simple gratitude log. I’m starting off with just one thing a day, and have decided to keep it going throughout May. Here are the things that gave me feelings of gratitude and pleasure:
- Monday: The warmth of a hot water bottle.
- Tuesday: Seeing a beautifully vibrant pheasant in the garden.
- Wednesday: My cupboard is stocked up with soup again.
- Thursday: Mum found some chocolate Hobnonbs that are wheat free.
- Friday: My prayer cards arrived sooner than expected from America.
- Saturday: I had my biggest order yet on Etsy.
- Sunday: I read a poem in a post that was just what I needed to hear to help me while I’m trying to heal. It’s so close to home it may as well have been written for me: https://pagingmrszen.wordpress.com/2017/04/29/2504/
Sometimes the tiniest things can cause a shift in perspective. I started this blog because I wanted to heal, and hoped that in sharing it might prove of use to others. Last night I realised I’d been going about things on here the wrong way. This is about healing – something I’ve long had an interest in with a background in holistic therapies. In focusing on the dark, on my ‘problems’, I forgot that the objective is to aid healing.
A Goddess much beloved to me is Sigyn, the Norse Goddess of compassion, love and healing wounds. She is the one who inspires me on my healing journey. As such, so the blog becomes a better way to honour Her, I’m now going to shift the focus to the healing side of things, and the benefits of integrating, the positive lessons that can come from Shadow work, and the healing journey in general.
Sigyn isn’t one to shy away from the dark – her husband is Loki – but she approaches all with loving compassion. She is a Goddess for deep healing. So the dark will not be ignored here, but will be tempered with compassion.
Then it can – I hope – become worthy of She (Who) Holds The Bowl.
I enjoy earnestlydebra/ Jaguar Spirit’s daily readings. They often have little snippets that speak to me. Today’s post teaches courage in the face of fear, and taking a leap of faith, even when we’re not sure of what the future may bring.
… may we see that every Dream requires the courage to face the Unknown. May we see our fear and discomfort as only an automatic response of the Ego. May we face our Ego’s sense of Fear with a Leap of Faith. As we reflect on our Dynamic Nature, may we see how our Wisdom of Change will set the parameters for anything we would ever hope to accomplish. May we also acknowledge our Right to Change, knowing those around us will also experience some chaos by expecting us to stay the same. May we have the courage to be misunderstood and to make mistakes, knowing this is a natural part of learning something new.
Sometimes we mine others too deeply, when what we really need to do is sit with our own thoughts and emotions and deal with them.
– Diary musing from 30th January 2017
Sometimes I feel we can rely on others too much to fill the gaps in between. We search for things in others and use them as a distraction from healing our own needs and wounds.
But what pressure might that end up placing on such a relationship, even if it’s a friendship? What happens if that person can no longer be that distraction? We have to remember these people have their own emotional needs and lives to live too.
Instead of searching for the next emotional comfort blanket perhaps we need to look at why we feel we need that comfort in the first place. Are there deeper issues or old wounds we’ve been ignoring or not wanting to face? Maybe it’s time to give a little self-love and sit with our own ‘stuff’ for a while and see what it tells us.
Having been on both sides of this I can say it’s not fair to expect others to take the weight of our emotions. It’s up to us, and while others can be our support network they’re there to stand beside us, not carry us. We are the ones who need to take that brave step to just sit with our Selves.
Iryt-Ra has written a very thought-provoking piece on ‘perfection’. As someone who struggles with perfectionist tendencies I found it particularly encouraging.
You can read the full post here: https://irytra.wordpress.com/2017/04/23/imperfect/
We need to rise up to obstacles. We need to do this so we can get better. The human condition is not our problem, its our problem solving device. It is part of negative things like greed and fear, but it is also part of the reason we fight so hard. It holds inside of it things like ambition, drive, love, and understanding. All good things.
It’s believed in many ancient traditions that if you know the name of something you have power over it. This can manifest as either being able to command it or to break its hold over you.
In Shadow work it is important to know exactly which emotion you’re dealing with. It’s also important not to allow your own or other peoples’ projections to ‘name’ something falsely.
Differences between emotions, and understanding them, can help pinpoint the real areas you need to heal and work with. If you can’t pinpoint the exact emotion, but can instead recognise one of its ‘cousins’, you can still make progress, but perhaps it will take longer to dig out the root cause.
Some of my future posts will be working out these differences, and others will concentrate on specific Shadows – some I am working to heal myself, and others I’ve ‘questioned’ to try to better understand someone else’s projections and Shadows.