Shared from Paging Mrs Zen:
People are unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered.
Love them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and true enemies.
The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
Be good anyway.
I made a Gratitude Jar recently to help me see how much there is to be grateful for in my life, and to remind me of the abundance that comes my way. Every time something good happens, every time I receive a gift, unexpected bit of money, or find something I’ve been looking for (especially of it’s for a great price), I’ll add it to my Gratitude Jar. I also add times where I feel like my prayers have been answered, help has been offered, or someone has said something or put up a post that really helped me.
I had a plain jar but wanted something a bit prettier to inspire me, so I dug out my stickers and got to work. For the little ‘Thank you’ notes I cut up pieces of thin craft card, and every time I have something to add I will pick a piece, write on the plain side what I’m grateful for, and on the coloured side I’ll write “Thank you” with a little x (kiss) as a symbol of appreciation. It’s really simple to do, doesn’t take long to set up, and is a really good visual reminder of how to make Gratitude a regular practice in your life. It’s especially useful when you’re going through a rough patch; you can look at the Gratitude Jar and remind yourself of all the good that has come in for you already, and know you will be able to add something to the Jar soon.
Happy Equinox, everyone. May Winter’s pall make way for Spring’s more inviting shawl.
As it looked through the haze
The Sun saw it then;
The seed was a seed no more,
But with Spring’s eyes
It had shed its disguise
And was coming at last
Out at last
From Winter’s gloom.
(c) Michelle Gilberthorpe, She Holds The Bowl, 2018
(Also published on my other blog)
Sharing this lovely piece by Trait(s) Pour Trait(s) because: 1) self-care is important for our wellbeing, 2) I love cats, and 3) furry therapy is also a part of self-care for me.
When you move into deeper levels of self-care you enter deeper levels of inner healing. As my own self-care journey has progressed I have come across several important recurring themes, so I thought I’d share the following tips to help you get started with identifying your own self-care core principles.
1) Find ways to engage in relaxation – Try to find a way to factor in whatever relaxes you on a regular basis. It helps to de-stress, gives you some time to take a breather, and adds something fulfilling and nurturing to your daily, weekly or monthly routine.
2) Reduce anything that isn’t contributing to overall wellbeing – Be honest with yourself. Whether it’s what you read or watch, people who leave you feeling drained, social media, activities you don’t enjoy anymore or junk food, try to cut it down or cut it out. Doing this leaves space for new things, pursuits or people to enter your life that add more benefit to your physical, mental and emotional state.
Compromising is a part of our daily lives. It’s a part of how we relate to others with care for their differences and needs. When in balance compromise aids our relationships with others and the world around us. It shows we are open and that we are willing to factor in their needs because we value them and their presence in our lives. Part of showing we are loving and considerate individuals is through compromise.
A healthy amount of compromise shows respect, but over-compromising ultimately reflects a lack of respect for ourselves. If we constantly over-compromise to please others we are not deeming our own needs important enough. Over time this can lead to burn-out because we are not feeding our own needs and tending to our own self-care enough. It’s like adding wood to everyone else’s fires to keep them warm and not saving enough logs for our own.
If we over-compromise to please others, because we don’t want to ‘upset’ them in some way, we are again neglecting our own need for self-care. We can become stifled and may even start to resent the person we over-compromise for. Over time it can lead to feeling trapped, or forgetting our own ‘spark’ and feeling drained.
If we’re willing to really scrape the barrel and look at the dregs then Shadow work can open up whole new levels of realisation and understanding. In looking at the least palatable things we don’t want to see or own in ourselves sometimes we can gain crucial insight. This can allow us to finally free ourselves from deep-seated conditioning.
It’s not pretty, and its not fun, but it’s worthwhile when we finally feel that shift as we start to integrate and work with this new understanding.
Even the darkness can be beautiful. Claim it as your own, hold it close, give it the love it so desperately needs, and it might just reward you.
(c) Michelle Gilberthorpe, She Holds The Bowl, 2018
Hello everyone. I will be taking a little break from She Holds The Bowl.
I feel the need to reassess what I would like the blog to be as I move forward. Writing here has been so beneficial for me, and has helped to keep self care and gratitude in my awareness. These things are still very important to me but I would like to step away for a little while and see what She Holds The Bowl holds for this next phase.
I’m not sure how long I will be ‘away’ for – perhaps only a week or two – but by doing so it will mean I can look at what I would like the blog to grow into. It also gives me more impetus to really look deep and self-care in the mean time.
I look forward to sharing new things with you soon,
Creativity = Ingenuity + Inspiration + Imagination
(c) Michelle Gilberthorpe, She Holds The Bowl, 2017